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Generally when you want to conceive you really just want to get pregnant. You want, well, a baby. As long as you don't end up with a puppy at the end of nine months you're happy - regardless of pink or blue. But what if you would prefer one color over another. Is preconception gender selection even possible?
You can absolutely determine the gender of your child with a laboratory and in-vitro fertilization. But you're focusing on natural gender selection - you can't be 100% assured of a specific gender.
There's strong evidence to suggest you can "sway" the odds for gender. At this point it looks like getting the timing of intercourse right and creating the proper environment for either girl or boy sperm is the best way to influence conception. It's also important to be clear about what you want and form conscious intentions of your desire.
Read my story - conscious desire, and the method we used for a successful sway.
On to the inside info on gender selection!
Vaginal ph is believed to be important in trying for one gender or another. You can influence your vaginal ph pretty drastically, though it's important to keep careful tabs on it. Because baby girl ph needs to be more acidic it can take longer to successfully conceive while trying for a girl.
Sex selection has been studied scientifically. The Shettles Method is the most well-known method and has a moderate level of success. Another newer method for conceiving a girl only is the O+12 method.
The Chinese gender chart is a lot of fun to look at. It may not be quite as foolproof as the legends say... but it's entertaining!
It's ridiculous to label someone as a "bad person" because they desire one gender over another, though that often happens in modern society.
There are lots of people who feel more comfortable with boys - and lots who would rather have girls.
There are people who have one gender and want the other. Or who have one gender and love it and want more of the same.
None of these things makes anyone a bad person. If you feel like you'd like to parent a girl, there's nothing wrong with that. And if you'd rather raise a boy, there's nothing wrong with that either.
While we're at it, it's also a myth that most people want boys. In fact, if you do any research on it, you'll find that in most "developed" countries there's a slight preference for girls. I strongly suspect if we surveyed the entire population of the planet it would come out to about a 50/50 ratio.
It's also important to note that all babies are blessings. I urge you to consciously try to conceive the gender you'd like - but remain open to any baby. I continue to hold the wisdom of my midwife within:
You don't get what you want, you get what you're supposed to have.
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